Marriage Seminar

  I attended a marriage seminar on Sunday.  It was typical. There is a great deal of psychology in marriage but very little scripture for its basis.  I understand that, well, not really.  That is the way these are in Churches today.  They are a product to sell.  Why do I say this?
  A little back ground. I am divorced after 5 years of marriage, bad enough, re-married for 20 years.  Good you say.  I am now like this Jaguar.  Man what a ride.  Beautiful machine.  A wonderful thing to show off.  Imagine that if you looked on the other side there is a long scratch down the side.  I'm OK as long as you don't look to closely.  But you see, the leadership can not take a chance on someone possibly looking at the other side.  I am damaged goods. I can not be used.
  What does this have to do with the seminar?  These are geared to those without a divorce in their background.. I have yet to hear of someone that has been through a divorce, re-married, and is praised for there long, Godly marriage this second time around.  Never mind if there were legitimate reasons for the demise of the first marriage,  I am NEVER going to be without that long scratch on the other side.
  If the data is correct in the church, then 50% of the marriages are in divorces.  Is there no grace among the leaders of churches and seminar producers for those people? 

 You see,  I will never not have the scratch on the other side but I am still that beautiful machine through out.
Please consider this when you talk on longevity of marriage and say you almost went through a divorce but you worked it out.  You put yourself a notch above those like me.  I turn you off if you can not offer those that are like me that went through the divorce, re-married and have attained longevity.